Power of Decision

Power of decision

Have you been in a situation where you do not know what to do? On the one hand you wish to take action, but on the other hand, you're not sure if your intention is taking you in  the correct destination. It is like standing confused at crossroad and you wonder which direction to take into. However, what about if you have to decide on more serious things like health, education, family or work?

Obstacles to making decisions

For example, a situation where you have been exposed to prolonged stress at home or in the workplace. This might be an unpleasant experience that takes your power away  day after day. If this leads to a complication such as anxiety or depression then your life as is  becoming a "hell". At such times most people feel confused and helpless. There are many times when people are full with mixed feelings. On the one hand, they want to do something, but on the other hand some personal barriers stop them. This might be a belief such as what "My experiencing will pass away by itself"  or " I can cope because I am strong enough".  Sometimes it might be a fear about what others will say about me such as "You are "crazy" . In situation like this you have to make a difficult choice between remaining or leave your job. having all these beliefs become obstacles to making decisions.  

Delayed decisions

Making a decision determines the life direction you are going on. The lack of a proper decision will lead to the life getting worse and facing potential complications.

For example, I remember one of my acquaintances, who was experiencing a great deal with stress. This had great impact on his family and relationships with others. The day when he started a new job he got a stroke. After being in a coma for a 30 days the doctors helped him to get alive but he had to use a wheelchair for rest of his life. One of the reasons why he was in that situation was his firm belief that he was  "ironman", man  who can bear all sorts of burdens. Without recognizing his long overdue signals for rest sent by his body, his life changed in a minute. He had made his decision to continue despite the fact he was feeling unwell and the natural course of the events took its place.

How to make a decision in difficult times?

1. Acceptance

One of the first steps you can take in a difficult situation is listen to what your body says. If it tells you you need a rest, listen to it! If your body tells you to talk to someone, do it. In my work, I have met people who come too late for a conversation. It was difficult for them to accept that something went wrong or because of they felt ashamed. Accepting the facts is one of the first steps to solving the problem or making decision.

2. Be interested in

If you feel confused, but you do not know what to do, then start looking for information. Search the internet for topics related to your situation. You can watch videos on YouTube or visit an educational seminar as well as listen to a motivational podcast. Reading an interesting book on the subject would be a good time for reflection. You can go to your GP or talk to a friend. Of course, it is best to get an expert advice from a professional. Psychologist will help you if you have doubts or you are ashamed of what happened to you. Whatever you choose, think about what you've learned and look for its application in your life. Contemplate on the positives and negatives of what you are experienced and going through.

3. Take action

If you have gained more confidence in yourself and have accepted that you need a specialized help, seek a specialist such psychologist or psychotherapist. Doing this can help you move forward to restoring the balance in your life. Talk to friends and relatives and have activities to help you to reduce the tension around you. Walking in nature and listening to relaxing music create an atmosphere of peace and comfort and it is found to have great benefit on the mind and body. 

Remember,  when you are under stress it is difficult to think rationally and most likely this will lead you to make the wrong choices. Keep in mind, that you hold your life in your hands and you are the one who makes the choices. Life is the most valued possession and as such you should take care of it. Everyone wants to feel good and happy. However,  remember that  difficulties are part of the life's lesson and they may make you stronger,  but decisions are these that make the bridge between.

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